Friday, October 9, 2009
Always looking onwards and upwards.
There's one thing that stands out among the rest that my husband does better than me - progress. He is really good at making sure that we move forward as a family. He is always leading the family along the developmental continuum and pushing us to acheive new things.
What the heck am I talking about? To put it in plain English. Michael is always encouraging me to encourage the twins to grow up. If it wasn't for him, I swear that my 4 year old twins would probably still be in diapers. He was the one who announced one day last year "Don't you think it's time to start potty training?"
I don't know why I'm not good at progress and looking forward towards the next step in our twins' development, but I'm not. I guess I tend to get stuck in a rut, doing the same things over and over again the same way. I like to call it my "mothering mode," but sometimes it does turn into my "over-mothering mode."
It was my husband who suggested that maybe it's time for the twins to be separated into different cribs after a few nights of them rolling over each other. It was also him who suggested that maybe 2 years old is old enough to switch them to a sippy cup instead of a bottle.
And, yes, him again who said "Let's get beds for the twins so that they can come out of their cribs." If left up to me, my twins would probably still sleep in a crib. The next thing he is working on with me is getting them to use children's toothpaste instead of baby toothpaste.
I figure that I have so much to think about on a daily basis, it's sometimes hard to think about what I should be working on next in the grand scheme of things. The day to day grind gets the best of me for sure. I'm glad that Michael reminds me that progress with the twins (progress in general) is a good thing and points out those areas where we should be moving forward on.
You know though if I'm honest with myself, I think that there is a little part of mothering nostaglia that plays into it as well and causes me to delay. Could my twins really be growing up so fast? Am I ready for that? I know they sure are.
Do you find yourself doing similiar things? Like still brushing the teeth of your teenager (okay, maybe that's a little drastic, but you know what I mean). I'd love to hear from you (and know I'm not the only one).